It’s that special time of year again, fall, holidays and family gatherings. As a family of a first responder and having a child that switches houses, we do our best to celebrate when you can, as you can. That has and always will be our family motto! We don’t stress the dates, so what if Dad is at the fire station or the kiddo isn’t with us on our exact birthday, what does matter is making the most of the family time when we are together. This year, thanksgiving for us will be Wednesday not Thursday, no switching and just enjoying the day, we have to take into consideration that not only does the child switch when it comes to holidays, but we all do. Spouses, parents, grandparents, all of us; who are trying hard to split our holiday time with all those that matter to make sure that no one is left out or forgotten.
It is this time of year that I feel I understand most when my dear stepdaughter switches houses, she must sometimes feel exhausted, by the end of the holiday season I know I sure am. However, we build some GREAT memories along the way and that is truly what matters. I want her to have the best of both worlds, a great experience at both of her homes, because that is the ultimate goal, her true happiness.
Being a fire wife and stepmom has taught me so much, sometimes I am solo and sometimes I am surrounded by a lot of people, I have come to enjoy the quiet time and embrace it and not attempt to miss them so much, but to find things to occupy my time. Writing my children’s series and photography has helped along the way.
I love this time of year and I hope everyone makes the best of the time they have. Life passes too quickly to not embrace and cherish every moment that you have.
Happy Holidays !
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I have witnessed and felt others and even dealt with it myself, what to do when your child is sharing time with the other parent.
We have learned that time does not stop and life still occurs and just because our daughter is not with us doesn't change our love for her but it allows us the opportunity to focus on me time or us time.
We don't run off to theme parks or her favorite restaurants without her, however we still have to allow life to proceed. Is she missed, absolutely, more than anything but there is also joy in knowing she is spending time Mom. Sharing a child as I have learned over the years is tough. When we chose to focus on ourselves it gives us the much needed break whether we realize it or not. The break needed that when they come home you are better equipped to be the best parent that your child needs. When we take us time, usually a Sunday on the water such as today, we take the time to put the phones in the dry box and sit and have a real conversation with each other. We have the time to catch up and discuss life and things that have happened since we last had this opportunity, because you know as well as I do the quality of a good talk while handling homework or attempting to eat dinner with the kid is limited to conversations they want and need to be included in.
When it's my time, kid free and my husband at the fire station - I avoid the laundry and binge watch Netflix ! Just kidding, well kind of, but seriously, I have a much better tolerance for life when there is a break and time to focus on just me - hair, nails, reading or catching a movie. It's important and I encourage you to do the same.
Back to today, our therapy, couples time on the water - lunch and a couple beverages at an amazing place followed by just touring some of the damage from hurricane Irma. Found a local fishing spot at one of the restaurants currently closed since the pier and building were so badly damaged. I managed to out fish him once again! We have built such a strong foundation making sure to have time set aside for just us. Yes, we missed our kid, no doubt and we will share with her some of the amazing photos we took today once she is home after school tomorrow, then it's back to the hustle of school, work, dance class and homework logistics. What a great day, super recharged and ready to take on the week ahead.
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