I have witnessed and felt others and even dealt with it myself, what to do when your child is sharing time with the other parent.
We have learned that time does not stop and life still occurs and just because our daughter is not with us doesn't change our love for her but it allows us the opportunity to focus on me time or us time.
We don't run off to theme parks or her favorite restaurants without her, however we still have to allow life to proceed. Is she missed, absolutely, more than anything but there is also joy in knowing she is spending time Mom. Sharing a child as I have learned over the years is tough. When we chose to focus on ourselves it gives us the much needed break whether we realize it or not. The break needed that when they come home you are better equipped to be the best parent that your child needs. When we take us time, usually a Sunday on the water such as today, we take the time to put the phones in the dry box and sit and have a real conversation with each other. We have the time to catch up and discuss life and things that have happened since we last had this opportunity, because you know as well as I do the quality of a good talk while handling homework or attempting to eat dinner with the kid is limited to conversations they want and need to be included in.
When it's my time, kid free and my husband at the fire station - I avoid the laundry and binge watch Netflix ! Just kidding, well kind of, but seriously, I have a much better tolerance for life when there is a break and time to focus on just me - hair, nails, reading or catching a movie. It's important and I encourage you to do the same.
Back to today, our therapy, couples time on the water - lunch and a couple beverages at an amazing place followed by just touring some of the damage from hurricane Irma. Found a local fishing spot at one of the restaurants currently closed since the pier and building were so badly damaged. I managed to out fish him once again! We have built such a strong foundation making sure to have time set aside for just us. Yes, we missed our kid, no doubt and we will share with her some of the amazing photos we took today once she is home after school tomorrow, then it's back to the hustle of school, work, dance class and homework logistics. What a great day, super recharged and ready to take on the week ahead.
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